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You guys, I just wanted to say, I'm overwhelmed with the love, compassion, and support you all have shown me in your thoughtful responses. This group is truly amazing. In the past, I have been a part of a couple of other online support groups, and even though there were always some truly wonderful people, our group is definitely exceptional. NLP is the most loving, strong, supportive, and Christ-centered online group I've ever seen, hands-down.
It's been hard work, but I'm a totally different person than when I first came in the door of NLP several years ago. Much of those good changes were because of the repeated emails that encouraged me to concentrate on things I could change and give the rest to God.
The process of truly turning my husband and his problem over to God, and trusting God with my marriage -- and then seeking God for my own healing and recovery has put me on the path of the most awesome spiritual journey I have ever experienced. I praise God for His goodness, faithfulness and mercy every day.
The words of encouragement, stories, feelings, attitudes, thoughts, are all like mine. AMAZING. I feel the Lord guided me here. I had nothing to do with God, except for showing up at church on Sundays due to an obligation. I didn't get anything out of it. I cried every Sunday at church. It was horrible. I felt horrible. NLP has changed that for me. As a matter of fact, I was telling my daughter about NLP and how it has helped to bring me closer to God, which I haven't felt for five months. I told her it was nice to be back, to be able to pray and not fight it any more. It truly is amazing. When I first started reading the posts, I felt weird because of all the Godly things that were being said because I was angry with God about my situation. But that weirdness also subsided and I feel so comfortable now. I can't wait to read my e-mail during my lunch break and when I get home from work and before I go to bed. NLP has helped me more than anything has in the last five months. My resentment toward my husband has subsided a bit along with the anger.
I've been with NLP for sometime now and I think the thing that amazes me the most is that we come from many backgrounds and denominational differences and yet love abounds. There is no judgement passed here.
When I first found this group, I was literally falling apart. My heart hurt in a way I didn't know it could and I had no one to turn to who would understand. Through the women in NLP I found validation, understanding, support, strength, encouragement, shoulders to cry on, acceptance and unconditional love. But even better than that, I've learned to "Let Go and Let God." I've learned that healing and forgiving have nothing to do with my spouse and everything to do with me. I have peace and joy again. God has blessed my life tremendously through NLP and I will forever be grateful!
God has given me friends who care about me and UNDERSTAND where I am and what I am going through. Before I met these ladies, I had met only ridicule and humiliation when I attempted to discuss my husband's addiction. I have met ladies who no doubt will be friends into eternity. They are honest and open. Knowing that we all share a common commitment to God has helped strengthen me beyond explanation. I praise God for putting this group on the heart of its founder, and for giving her the courage to do as the Holy Spirit led her.
I'm a "graduate" of NLP. After having struggled with sexual addiction in my marriage for a dozen years I finally said "that's enough." I turned to the internet to find help and within a day I found NLP. It is miraculous how sharing with other women can change your outlook. A single sentence from another woman can drastically change how you see things. Through NLP I learned that the problem is HIS problem. I learned how to pray for him. I learned how to pray for myself. And I learned how to set limits and stick to them. I praise God for the growth He has provided through NLP.
The support group has been so helpful to me. It is so good to know that I am not alone and that there are others who are going through the same or similar situations. I have really been encouraged over and over again when I read some of the letters. Writing helps me to get alot off my chest and I know the sisters are listening and praying. This is an issue that is not one to be shared with just anyone, but knowing we are all in the same boat makes the difference.
I have been a part of NLP for about a year. Being a part of this group of Christian women who have experienced some of the same things I have has given me peace where before there was turmoil. It is so nice to have a place to go and talk to someone who understands what sexual addiction is and how it can affect your life. Prior to NLP, I had no one I could talk to about this. I have grown spiritually as well as a result of knowing, sharing with, and learning from these women. I thank God daily for leading to me NLP.
I don't honestly know where I would be today if I hadn't found this group, and shudder to think about it. I was such a wreck, and my life had become unmanageable. I am so much stronger because of the ladies here, through their testimony, witness, and support.
It's been about two weeks now that I've been writing and I want to thank EACH of you for the many encouraging, empowering words you've sent my way. I have so much more strength now than I did when I started. There is light peaking through my windows. I had no other source of support when I first turned here, and I truly think my life would have been full of misery right now had it not been for the courage that your words gave me.
I came into this group devastated with finally learning what had been destroying my marriage for years--sexual addiction. I came in hoping to find answers to quickly fix "him" and that would make "us" all better. I came here as an arrogant, yet very confused, hurting person inside. I thought I had all the answers and God showed me here, in amazing love, that I had none, but that HE did have answers. And more than that, in this group, He showed me how to look to Him more and more, how to trust in Him and myself more and more, and to see that I am a loveable, wonderful person, created in His image. This group became my safe haven for learning all that. It has changed my life forever.
I found this group on line a couple days after I found out about my husband. I was not looking for anyone to tell me that I would be okay. I wanted someone to say, "Kick him out. Get on with your life. You do not need him in your life. He does not deserve you." That is not what I got at all. This was not a men hating club, but a God loving one. I was told to take the focus off of my husband and put it on God and myself. Thank you.
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